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IDepression is often described by clients as being in a 'black hole" and when we are depressed we will often try to hide the true extent how bad we are feeling from others so that we can appear outwardly OK.
This is particularly true of men. Thousands of years of not wanting to be seen as a failure seems to be wired into the brains of modern man who still carry the ancient legacy of being brave and showing no weaknesses. By nature a man is a competitive, controlled, defensive, problem solver who hides his emotional state to stay in control and to protect loved ones.. We live in culture where social conditioning reinforces that men should be strong, succesful and independent, where crying is seen as a sign of weakness and men should 'put on a 'brave face' and 'man-up'. This means that aggression and anger become primary and a more 'acceptable' way for a man to express his emotions rather than showing his vulnerability and seeing himself as out of control and weak.
Men are not invincible. They have experiences in life that cause them emotional pain just the same as women do. Problems such as losing their jobs, financial worries, workplace stress, broken relationships and the death of someone close. Sometimes the emotions that these life experiences cause may feel unfamiliar and frightening, leaving men feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with them. Anxiety and depression can be felt as physical symptoms such as lethargy, emotional withdrawal and loss of libido.
How Can I Help?
At A Time for You, Counselling and Reiki, I take a holistic therapeutic approach to tackling low mood and depression by offering my own combination of therapy, treatments and techniques. There are often a myriad of reasons which cause low mood and depression and therefore it can be really helpful for you to initially feel enabled to talk through what has been or is currently happening in your life. This will help us to identify any unresolved losses that you may have experienced as well as understanding your thought processes which may be fuelling your low mood and state of mind.. Combining this with Reiki and EFT work well as well as looking at your nutrition and lifestyle.
During one session or a course of therapy you can benefit from Counselling, Personal Life Coaching, Reiki Treatments, Hypnotherapy, EFT and Matrix Reimprinting (with EFT). As depression affects our thoughts, feelings, physial body and behaviours, I beleive that by offering something more than traditional counselling is a more effective route to healing our mind and body.
How Can Reiki Hep?
Our negative automatic, distorted, thoughts, our self limiting beliefs, our supressed feelings and our inability to communicate our needs to others are stored in our mental and emotional energetic bodies clogging up the flow of our life force "Ki" energy. When this happens we can feel very low in energy, experience aches and pains and can eventually manifest as dis-ease in our physical bodies. Reiki helps to release what me may have stored at an energy level, helping the flow of your life force energy so that you feel more energised and an improved sense of wellbeing on all levels.
How Can Counselling/Psychotherapy/CBT Help?
By coming to see me at A Time For You Reiki & Counselling, Swindon you will feel safe and understood whilst you are enabled to talk about how you feel, identify some of the difficulties that are contributing to your low mood and depression and gain some immediate relief. I can help you to understand some of the negative automatic thinking patterns which are exacerbating your negative feelings, and downward spiral of low mood, loss of confidence and pain, Techniques such as CBT can be used to help you to challenge your faulty thinking and negative beliefs so that you can begin gain a new perspective of your situation.
Together we can look at your responses to your situation especially if you have or are currently suffering from loss. When we suffer from loss we need to go through a grieving process in order for us to be able to come to terms with it and move on. When we grieve we do feel intensely sad, we want to withdraw emotionally and we feel little joy and pleasure in life. Whilst some of these symptoms are similar to that of depression, the grieving process is a ormal and healthy response to loss and grief is to be encouraged so that rather than supress our feelings which halts the process, we can heal. I can help you to understand which of your responses are normal and to help you with any unresolved grief.
I can also help you to work out the lifestyle changes that you may need to make in order to reduce your stress levels and improve your mood. By understanding your needs, learning to value yourself, communicate your needs and take care of your needs all help to combat low mood and dpression. Looking at your lifestyle, natural supplements, and achieving a healthy work/life balance will aslo help you to feel better.
How Can EFT Help?
EFT is often called emotional acupuncture becuase it combines gentle tapping on key acupuncture points while focusing your thoughts on uncomfortable emotions, unhappy memories or any other problem. Depression causes many negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs to disruption in the body's energy system. By using EFT the underlying emotional factors that contribute to the problem are typically released along with the energy blocks.
Are You Really Depressed?
At times we can all feel fed up and low in response to difficult experiences. Feeling low when you are going through a stressful time in your life is normal, however when these low feelings persist and are accompanied by intense sadness, hopelessness, helplessness and physical symptoms such as lethargy and sleeplessness you may have depression and need some professional help.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published by the American Psychiatric Association, provides a common language and standard criteria for the classification of mental disorders. It is used, or relied upon, by clinicians, GP's, health insurance companies and pharmaceutical companies. The current version, published on May 18, 2013, is the DSM-5 (fifth edition)
According to the DSM-5 the criteria for a diagnosis of a Depressive episode is:
At least five of the following symptoms have been present during the same 2-week period and represent a change from previous functioning. At least one of the symptoms is either (1) depressed mood or (2) loss of interest or pleasure.
1. Depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day, as indicated either by subjective report (e.g., feels sad or empty) or observation
made by others (e.g., appears tearful).
2. Markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities most of the day, nearly every day (as indicated either by
subjective account or observation made by others)
3. Significant weight loss when not dieting or weight gain (e.g., a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month), or decrease or
increase in appetite nearly every day.
4. Insomnia or hypersomnia nearly every day
5. Psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day observable by others.
6. Fatigue or loss of energy nearly every day
7. Feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt (which may be delusional) nearly every day.
8. Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness, nearly every day (either by subjective account or as observed by
9. Recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), recurrent suicidal ideation without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or
specific plan for committing suicide.